Saturday, February 13, 2010
Love Yourself (Personal)
There's nothing wrong with being happily single. Valentine's Day seems to make so many people sad because they think they must be in a relationship to be happy. That isn't true. If you're in a wonderful, loving relationship that makes you feel good, then that's great.
But if you're happy with your own company, if you like spending time with your friends and by yourself, you may not miss having a significant other. Don't let a fake holiday make you miserable. It is better to be alone than in a bad relationship.
So many of my girl friends and even guy friends think that if they aren't in a couple then some how they failed. They constantly jump from one bad relationship to another because they're afraid to be alone or they think to be happy they must be in a relationship. This just isn't true.
It's not that I'm against romance or coupledom.
I'm against feeling miserable because I don't measure up to the Jones. No one should be made to feel less because they are romantically unattached. If you're happy as you are, be happy.
If you're not happy, figure out why you're miserable, and take steps to fix it.
Finding any random person who'll be your 'date' or boy/girl friend just so you have a body to attach yourself to is idiotic. If you find the right person, yes, it can make your life even sweeter. But most don't wait for that, they grab onto anyone who shows up and then complain the person isn't what they want.
Everyone seems to have this fantasy that there is a soul mate out there waiting for them. For some people, this might be true. But for others, it's not.
Not everyone finds their soul mate and that is okay. You can be blissfully happy just being alone. You can be happy being out with your friends.
If you really feel your life would be enhanced by sharing yourself with another person in a romantic relationship, then look for that person. Take your time. Find the RIGHT person, not just any person who'll say yes.
I'll tell you this, if you're broken or miserable, a relationship will not fix that.
You have to fix the broken parts of you first, THEN find someone.
Otherwise those broken edges will just scrape you both raw.
Work on you. Work on being happy. Make some new friends, get out, develop hobbies. Live your life. Give yourself the permission not date for awhile.
Don't worry about Valentine's Day and it's over reaching expectations.
Because when you're satisfied, happy, and keeping yourself open to possibilities, good things find you.
And if you want to date then do it from that position of knowing you are enough by yourself. If your a complete,content person who finds someone who make their life even sweeter, then go for it.
Love works when you are secure in yourself.
Then if the person isn't the right person, then you'll be confident enough to let them go on their way and not settle for 'Mr./Miss Right Now.
Love starts with loving yourself.